Saturday, December 23, 2023

The Narcissist and the Holidays

As some of you already know, I've started writing on Substack about many things that concern me. 


I'm writing a novel for FREE on Substack. 


Now, I'm starting a podcast that will be weekly that will tackle a few different topics that interest me. The very first podcast is about The Narcissist and the Holidays. 

 If you've ever tangled with a narcissist, you know what a special kind of hell the holidays can be! 


 Go take a look and let me know what you think! The Narcissist and the Holidays

Sunday, December 17, 2023

Give a Unique Gift of a Tarotscope!

 

Reading tea leaves at a corporate function on Bay Street in Toronto.

"Wow. F**king. Wow. You were dead on. Now I know what to do. Your reading was mind-blowing." - Client Jeanna


"The tarot reading was super awesome and spot on!" - Client


Rates for Online Tarot Card Readings

All Tarot Readings and Reports are written by me. I don't use computer programs or recycled material. Each report is special and unique to you and your co-ordinates. 

Details: For the two special Holiday Tarotscope Special Written Reports, I will prepare them as quickly as possible to get them out for you to send as gifts or for your own purposes. You can print off the report on nice paper and roll it up into a scroll and tie it with a ribbon to make it a special gift. Or you can just email it to the person you're giving it to if you're not buying it for yourself. 

Video Tarot Readings: I will prepare them as quickly as possible but it might be up to 48 hours. You will receive your reading by email. 



Holiday Tarotscope Special Basic - Special Rate Expires December 23, 2023

This is a written report where I pull thirteen tarot cards. The report consists of one short paragraph for each month of the year. The report will begin January 2024 unless otherwise specified. This is a limited sale.
 




Holiday Tarotscope Special - Special Rate Expires December 23, 2023

This is a written report where I pull thirteen cards. The report contains more details than the basic report. The report will begin January 2024. This is a limited sale. 
 



Get a Short Video Tarot Reading – No Question

I will email you a video tarot reading. If you can include your birthdate, time of birth, and place of birth, that will be helpful, if you have the information. But if you don't, I can still read for you. 
 



Get a Short Video Tarot Reading – Ask One Question

If you have a question, ask the question. Also include birthdate, time of birth, and place of birth of people involved in the question, if you know it. If you don't know, that's okay too. I will email you the video. 
 



Book an Online Tarot Reading – One Hour 

This is interactive where we speak on Skype or Facetime etc. You buy the appointment and then email me at sephgiron @ gmail.com to set up a time and platform that works for both of us. We can talk on the phone if you prefer that way to the video calls.






IN-PERSON: PARTIES
Private and Corporate

Tarot readings or tea leaf readings can provide a unique experience for guests.

Book a reader for private parties and corporate events in Toronto, Etobicoke, Mississauga, or Oakville.

Email me with your inquiry: sephgiron @ gmail.com 

Bridal
Stag and Doe
Baby Showers
New Baby
Birthday Parties
Anniversary
Divorce Parties
Girls Night Out
Staff Appreciation
Customer Appreciation
Spa Days


Tarot Readings (seated or strolling)
Astrology Readings
Numerology Readings
Tea Leaf Readings (allow fifteen minutes minimum per person)




IN-PERSON: ONE PERSON

If you want me to meet you somewhere for a one-on-one tarot card reading, email me before paying to make sure we can hook up. 




Email me with the subject heading In-Person Tarot Reading Details for more details at sephgiron  @ gmail.com


Here are a few places that have hired Sèphera as a fortune-teller. This is by no means a complete list:

Selected Corporate Events 
Royal Ontario Museum
Columbian Wine Tasting
Google Promo
Sanctuary Vendors Market
Dance Competition Appreciation for Teachers
York University Student Federation Events
Sheridan College Student Federation Events
Law Office Halloween Party
Packagers Holiday Party
Toronto Comicon
Fan Expo
Niagara Falls Comicon
Frightmare in the Falls
Eeriecon
1st Annual Something Strange Circus Sideshow
2nd Annual Something Strange Circus Sideshow
Something Strange Marketplace
Festivus

Fan Days
Guelph GenreCon
Limestone GenreCon
Ad Astra
World Horror Convention
Horrorfind
Haunted Houses
Bar Mitzvahs
Rock Concerts
Shopper's Drugmart Corporate Office
Shopper's Drugmart Stores
Ontario Lottery Corporation
Design Exchange Gala
Big Brothers
Sherwood Group Mortgage Brokers
Winter Magic
Ice, Wine, Dine
Humber College (both campuses)
Magnum Food Brokers
Periodontal Associates
This Is London Club
Maritz
Four Villages Community Health Centre
TPC Entertainment Company
Media Brands Canada
Central Eglinton Community Centre
Great Lakes Schooner Company
Black Box School Theatre
Your Events Etc.
Travel Alberta
Tucows
Nice Agency

Jumbleberry
Allergen
Ryerson Commerce Society
OPSEU Woman's Conference Diva Night
YMCA Toronto Bergamat Apartments
Psychic Brunch
Nine of Cups
Carnival Diablo
Edgefest
Ed the Sock
Port Credit Moonlight Madness
Port Credit Festivals
Ladybug Harbor
The Source Within



Gig Salad


If you would prefer to book me in person for events through a third-party app, I completely understand that it's safer for both of us. I'm on Gig Salad. Here's a form where you can contact me.




Friday, December 8, 2023

What Is Serial Vlogger?


 SerialVlogger is a horror novel written in tiny slices!

What does this mean?

It means that I’m serving up a slice of a novel every week.

Serial Vlogger is a complete novel, a horror novel.

Since it’s being written as I go along, it’s akin to a first draft!

I have more than half the book written, and I know how it ends. This isn’t really a pantser experiment in case you're worried! This is a full novel. 

The idea for Serial Vlogger has been in my head for many years.

The character of Lenore (and a lot connected to her) has shown up in a couple of pitches, drafts, and ideas for other horror novels and screenplays but now she’s in Serial Vlogger.

The more time passes, the more urgency I feel about getting Serial Vlogger out as it’s a comment on YouTube culture and social media. Since these cultures change rather rapidly, I decided it’s time to just get the book out before things change again so much that people won’t “get” Serial Vlogger.  This is why I’ve decided to write it for free on Substack. It’s timely and I don’t want to wait a couple of years for it to get published.

The slices are presented for free on Sundays on Substack.

There are weeks that I miss for whatever reasons, so I make up for the absence by adding extra installments during the week to catch up when I get them prepared. For instance, there’s a slice today (December 8), tomorrow, and then we’ll be back on track by Sunday’s slice. I don't expect to miss any more weeks for a couple of months. I'm planning to preload them over the next few days.

The slices are smaller than chapters which is why I call them slices. Several slices will make a chapter. I likely won't do the chapter indicators until the book is finished and then goes through some revisions.

Serial Vlogger is my gift to you! I appreciate all my readers over the years. While Serial Vlogger is being serialized on Substack, it is free. Once it’s finished, we’ll see what comes next.

What is the Content?

You can expect a Sèphera Girón work, uncensored. Readers of my work know that they can expect social commentary, murder, ghosts, body horror, insanity, and more. Serial Vlogger will touch on ideas such as cults, serial killers, feeders, and obsession.

This is a FICTIONAL work of horror and I’m not known for playing nice or making my reader comfortable. Consider this your trigger warning or disclaimer!

Now that we’re getting up to the teens in the slice count, I expect more people will be inclined to read as they can read more of the work all at once. Some readers like their stories doled out in bits, and some like to binge. I get it!

Patrons on Patreon

All paid levels of Patrons on my Patreon get to see the work first. In fact, they've already seen a super rough version of a big chunk of what will be published over the next few months. But they also get the little slices at least one day (when possible) before it's published on Substack. 

It's FREE!

I hope you enjoy this free novel. Please subscribe for free or you can join the paid subscriber tier as a tip if you're enjoying my content. 

Please share Serial Vlogger as I’m writing it for all horror fans! 


 


 

Wednesday, October 25, 2023

Frightmare in the Falls October 27 to 29, 2023


 


I'm thrilled to be returning to Frightmare in the Falls again this year with the Great Lakes Horror Company at Booth 114!

I'll be running a free writing workshop. At this workshop, I'll lead you through various exercises so that by the end of the session, you'll have the skeleton of a short story. It's up to you later on in your laboratory to clothe those bones with flesh and give your creature life!

The workshop is free and in room 207. You don't have to sign up in advance, just show up.
You don't have to be a writer. You don't have to have any ideas before you come in. 
You don't have to share with the class, we won't have time to share. 
Just bring a pen and paper or your laptop or phone, however, you like to write. 
I've given this workshop a few times over the past year and have listened to the feedback on how to improve it. 

At the booth, you can find the brand new hot off the press from the Great Lakes Horror Company, Weird Tales of Terror. This is a collection of my early work, a few short stories, and a very early novel. 
I love this new edition. 
The cover photo is by Mothmeister. They also provided the artwork for Dearly Departed, the collection I did with Andrew Robertson last year. There will be a few copies of that one as well at the booth.

I'll also be reading tarot at the booth at the still-low price of $20. 
First come, first serve, although feel free to book a time if you like!




Over the past few months, I've started a Poshmark Closet and have been selling new and vintage clothes, toys, and other goodies on there. I'll have some jewelry at the booth from the store. 



I've also started a new YouTube channel GothmothersClosetResell. Right now, it's about showing you what's in the closet as I list them since most items are black and hard to see in a photo or two. 




I'm also working on a novel in tiny little slices, Serial Vlogger. You can read it for free over at Substack!






Monday, September 25, 2023


 In addition to the above events, I will be reading tarot at Ground Control on October 7 for their goth market in the afternoon. The Great Lakes Horror Company will be there as well selling books, and very cool horror items. There will be many other vendors to break in this brand new home for goths. 

That night will be the reunion for Sanctuary Vampire Club and I will be dancing the night away at that one!

Ground Control, 1279 Queen Street West, Toronto

Also, over on Substack, I've been posting a brand new original horror novel, Serial Vlogger: A Novel in Tiny Slices! Currently, it's free! Slice number three was posted on Sunday. 

sephera.substack.com



I've also begun a new adventure, a Poshmark store with a matching YouTube channel!

My Poshmark closet: http://www.poshmark.ca/closet/sephera666

My Poshmark YouTube channel:




I've also posted a new video on my Sephera's World Channel!



Have a great day!

Wednesday, September 13, 2023

October Events


 

Tarot Reading Rates!

 


Reading tea leaves at a corporate function on Bay Street in Toronto.

"Wow. F**king. Wow. You were dead on. Now I know what to do. Your reading was mind-blowing." - Client Jeanna

"The tarot reading was super awesome and spot on!" - Client




Video Tarot Card Readings


This is a recording of a video of me giving you a reading. Length is determined by price. You can ask a question or don't ask a question. Send birth date, birth location of people being asked about if you know it, and any other information you see fit.

Mini Video Reading: $5

Short Reading: $10

Reading (Most popular!): $20

More details: $50

Super detailed. Can ask two or three questions: $75

Long and intense: $100

Readings
 


For the best results for any type of tarot card reading, include your date of birth. (day, month, year, place of birth)

If you are asking a love question or about anyone else, including his or her birth date as well if at all possible.

Payable by Paypal or EFT in advance.

When making your Paypal payment, please include:

Date and place of birth
Date and place of birth for anyone else included in your question, if possible
Type of Reading being ordered if it's not clear.

Include your question with your Paypal Payment or EFT.

Ask the question. You can be specific or general.
You can ask about anything except gambling and health.



Written Reports by Email
Tarot Readings by email are the most popular choice because they are quick, easy, and inexpensive. There's no worrying about coordinating schedules or cancellations for storms or other reasons. If you have a question or concern or just want to know the general vibes surrounding your future path, just send a payment to PayPal with your question in it. I will answer your question as quickly as possible.

One Question - Written Reports

Mini Reading: $10
A simple "yes" or "no" and perhaps more detail if warranted.

Regular Reading (up to one page): $15

More Detailed Reading (one to two pages):  $30

Very Detailed Reading (two to five pages): $50


Tarot Card Readings
 

The question will be answered between 24 hours and 72 hours.



BY PHONE OR CHAT

Book your appointment today!

Let us know when you're ready to chat by phone, Skype or Zoom.

One half-hour reading by phone or chat prepaid by Paypal to sephgiron @rogers.com: $100 US




IN-PERSON: PARTIES
Private and Corporate

Tarot readings or tea leaf readings can provide a unique experience for guests.

Book a reader for private parties and corporate events in Toronto, Etobicoke, Mississauga, or Oakville.
Bridal
Stag and Doe
Baby Showers
New Baby
Birthday Parties
Anniversary
Divorce Parties
Girls Night Out
Staff Appreciation
Customer Appreciation
Spa Days


Tarot Readings (seated or strolling)
Astrology Readings
Numerology Readings
Tea Leaf Readings (allow fifteen minutes minimum per person)





IN-PERSON: ONE PERSON

Email me with subject heading In-Person Tarot Reading Details for more details at sephgiron  @ gmail.com

In-person booking spots are very limited. There are only a few spots a month, so please book in advance. Please email for available times:  sephgiron @gmail.com


Here are a few places that have hired Sèphera as a fortune-teller:

Selected Corporate Events 
Toronto Comicon
Fan Expo
Niagara Falls Comicon
Frightmare in the Falls
Eeriecon
1st Annual Something Strange Circus Sideshow
2nd Annual Something Strange Circus Sideshow
Something Strange Marketplace
Festivus

Fan Days
Guelph GenreCon
Limestone GenreCon
Ad Astra
World Horror Convention
Horrorfind
Haunted Houses
Bar Mitzvahs
Rock Concerts
Shopper's Drugmart Corporate Office
Shopper's Drugmart Stores
Ontario Lottery Corporation
Design Exchange Gala
Big Brothers
Sherwood Group Mortgage Brokers
Winter Magic
Ice, Wine, Dine
Humber College (both campuses)
Magnum Food Brokers
Periodontal Associates
This Is London Club
Maritz
Four Villages Community Health Centre
TPC Entertainment Company
Media Brands Canada
Central Eglinton Community Centre
Great Lakes Schooner Company
Black Box School Theatre
Your Events Etc.
Travel Alberta
Tucows
Nice Agency

Jumbleberry
Allergen
Ryerson Commerce Society
OPSEU Woman's Conference Diva Night
YMCA Toronto Bergamat Apartments
Psychic Brunch
Nine of Cups
Carnival Diablo
Edgefest
Ed the Sock
Port Credit Moonlight Madness
Port Credit Festivals
Ladybug Harbor
The Source Within



Saturday, August 19, 2023

Fan Expo Final Schedule 2023

 


Fan Expo Canada in Toronto, Ontario is coming up super fast!

I'm super excited to be on some programming!

On Thursday night at 7:30, there are three of us from the Horror Writers Association Ontario Chapter reading from our work. We each get ten minutes. I'm not sure when I go on, so come early and enjoy!

On Friday afternoon at 4:30, I'm super excited for a panel about horror TV shows. 

FROM YELLOW JACKETS TO STRIAGHT JACKETS: WHY DO WE LOVE HORROR TV SHOWS? Details

4:30 pm to 5:15 pm in THEATRE #6: GENERAL PROGRAMMING [South Building - Level 700, Room 711] Yellow Jackets, American Horror Story, Dahmer, Ratched, The Last of Us, Midnight Mass, and so many more keep us tuning in every week or just plain binge-watching. What is it about watching regular people slowly unraveling (or not!) as they are plunged into a horrific universe that keeps us riveted? What horror in our own lives are we keeping at bay by watching cannibalism, vampires, flesh-eaters, and more? Join us for a discussion about your favourite horror TV series and why we can't get enough! Be warned: There might be spoilers and there's nothing scarier than spoilers!


Today, we were able to confirm Lizz de Savoye of Planet Lizzdom will be joining the panel. We are still waiting confirmation for the fourth panelist. 

On Saturday at 5, we'll be running a writer's workshop. Bring pen and paper or laptop or even your phone to make notes during the exercises. The goal is to have the skeleton of a short story by the end of 45 minutes as we lead you through exercises. Don't worry, you don't have to share with the class, there isn't time. You don't have to sign up in advance and come on in even if you're running late. 
The story you work on doesn't have to be a horror story, it can be anything you want. After all, you're the only one looking at it! You do not need to have an idea for a story to do the class. We are covering the basic elements of crafting a scary short story so you can figure it out as you go along or even when you get home!

I'm planning to wander around and look at exhibits as well as this year I don't have a booth. If you see me, say hi!





I've started a Poshmark Closet as I'm at the downsizing part of my life. I have tons of items that just sit in boxes for various reasons and it's time to move them along. I'm sure most of you know how that goes!

I also source modern, interesting items at various places that I think might be of interest to some. 

Some items, whether mine or from a store, are brand new, never worn/opened, and some even have tags!

My Sephera666/Gothmother's Closet might be considered an everything store in one respect, yet in another, it has niches, as listed on the poster. 

The only thing I find difficult about Poshmark Canada is that there's no way to have separate closets for separate items. If there were categories in our actual closets of toys, clothes, and books, then that would be easier for both selling and browsing. But it isn't that, it's all about keywords. So I'm trying my best to use the keywords appropriately. 

My closet is chock full of clothes and accessories that are great for fall, Back to School, Solstice, and Halloween. There are nice pieces for cosplay, fetish play, costume parties, masquerades, goth parties, witch festivals, pagan rituals, and more. 

I'm still new at this but am trying to list new items every day. So follow me on Poshmark.ca at sephera666 

If you're new to Poshmark and buy something from any closet on the Poshmark.ca platform, you can use the code sephera666 to receive 15% off your order. 


Naughty French Maid, brand new, never worn

Ghosts on leggings!

Black dress with white cats!



Barbiecore! You'll likely need a pink skater skirt for some party or event this fall!

Cute flowered half top with buttons and a tie at the waist. Long sleeves.

Little white mini shorts work well for any costume party! The buttons are fun!

You could wear the yellow and black flowered shirt, the white hot pants and these tan leather zip-up boots then top it all off with a cowboy hat for a Western or Country look!

On my Sephera666 closet, you can bundle as many items as you like for bigger discounts. 
Also, make me an offer if you want at any time. I'm always open to offers. 

This brand-new little top is so cute. I had to buy it a few days ago so that someone can wear it. I'll never be that small. The photos don't capture the true essence of the soft, shiny material. It's like fresh mocha frosting on a cake. 

Another Barbiecore look. That pink Barbie color will be hard to find when you're looking for a Halloween costume! Great trousers for a fifties look, a country look, or just wear them because you like them!

Photos don't do justice to this nifty multilayered electrifying top. 


You can find all these pieces and dozens more over at Sephera666 at Poshmark.ca

Sunday, August 6, 2023

Fan Expo Appearances

 



It's been a while. A lot of life changes and this and thats to deal with these days.

However, I'm super excited to be doing a few appearances at Fan Expo in a couple of weeks!

As part of the Horror Writers Association Ontario Chapter, I'll be doing a reading on Thursday night from one of my works. I've been told it can be a mature audience so I'll see what I pick. 

I might be on a panel with the HWA Ontario Chapter about ghost hunting, but I'm not sure yet. 

There will be a panel From Yellowjackets to Straightjackets: Why Do We Love Horror TV? which will be a conversation with Andrew Robertson and two other panelists about our favourite horror TV shows, and maybe even some tips and tricks about how to write for such shows as well as enjoying them. 

I'm also running a FREE Writing Workshop. I ran this course at Stokercon and it went over well. At Fan Expo, I only have 45 minutes to run the workshop, but it's interactive and you will leave the workshop with the beginning sketches of a new story or at least more of an idea about the elements of a horror short story and how to craft one. 

So for the Writing Workshop, bring pen and paper or your laptop or whatever you like to use to take notes and sketch out a story. We will be writing in class though likely there will not be time to share our work with each other this time, depending on how many students attend. 

As far as I know, I will NOT have a booth at Fan Expo this year. I understand that the HWA Ontario Chapter did not book a booth this year, either. So, you'll see me at Fan Expo at these appearances and also wandering around looking for good deals.

Keep watching my social media or the official Fan Expo Schedule Page to learn when these panels and presentations will occur. I'll update as I learn more. 



Monday, May 15, 2023

Upcoming Events from Sephera Giron

 




On Wednesday, May 17, 2023, at 7 pm, I will be reading for about half an hour courtesy of The Canada Council for the Arts and The Writers Union of Canada on my Twitch TV channel.








I will be teaching an in-person class about writing short horror stories at Stokercon in Pittsburgh this June 2023!

Friday, June 16, 2023 at 3 pm



I've been cleaning out my closet. If you want to pick up some goth, witchy, or bohemian-type clothes, jewelry, or knickknacks, check out my closet on Poshmark. I'm adding items all the time. Make me an offer! http://www.poshmark.ca/closet/sephera666

Tuesday, February 28, 2023

It's Mandalorian Eve!


SPOILERS SPOILERS IN PICTURES AND WORDS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS
SPOILERS FOR ALL STAR WARS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS




SPOILERS SPOILERS IN PICTURES AND WORDS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS
SPOILERS FOR ALL STAR WARS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS


It’s Mandalorian Eve!

I’m quite excited for it.

 

SPOILERS FOR ALL THAT STAR WARS STUFF!

Where did we last leave off in The Mandalorian?

I’m not going to cheat by looking it up, but I believe in the actual Mandalorian show, the season ended when Luke came and took Grogu for training at the Jedi Temple.

I still remember those moments wondering if it really would be Luke or not who finally shows up as the Jedi Master. I’d been so disappointed with the new trilogy that I didn’t dare hope that it really was Luke. But it was. And I was like a kid again!


Then I watched The Book of Bobba Fett which turned out to be The Mandalorian and a bunch of stuff happened to the Mandalorian storyline, if I recall correctly.



There was Obi-Wan which also did some this and thats to the overall Star Wars storylines but I don’t think it did anything to The Mandalorian?

I spent the past few days trudging through Andor just in case I needed to know something for The Mandalorian. I didn’t. I think if I’d watched Andor on my own terms, I’d have enjoyed it more. I was looking forward to binge-watching it in December, but then I couldn’t focus on shows for a couple of months. I still wasn’t in the mood for it when I turned it on.

It was beautifully shot, the acting was fantastic, there were some good storylines.

It’s funny how on Rotten Tomatoes, a lot of the reviews talk about how Andor is “adult” Star Wars. It’s funny because for huge hunks of the movie, I felt I was in my Lego Star Wars game, building, screwing, flying, leaping, climbing, stacking, and so on. It made me want to play but I continued to watch Andor. I guess it depends what you’re paying attention to.

At any rate, I’ve been doing my best to stay away from reviews, trailers and episode guides for The Manadorian, Season Three.




I’m wondering how they’ll explain some of the stuff that happened NOT in  TheMandalorian series but in other series. I guess they have to do a flashback “our story thus far” for all the viewers who didn’t know they had to watch other shows to stay up to date. They’ll have to do such things anyways for the rest of us who did watch but it’s been so long, we forgot it all.

At the end of the last episode, not only did Luke come for Grogu, Dinn Djarin was in trouble for removing his helmet. There was also a battle over the darksaber. And more that I forget right now.

Who’s excited for The Mandalorian?

The wait is nearly over. It felt like forever, but at last, here we are on Mandalorian Eve.


What will the new season bring?


Sunday, February 26, 2023

Sephera Giron is now on Substack

 


Sèphera Girón is now on Substack


Over the past few weeks, I've made a decision about the new direction of my writing career. 

I've signed up for Substack and will write at least one article weekly. 

This first week, I wrote four articles, but don't worry, I won't be writing that much going forward. 

I've created the Substack because my life path and career have changed direction yet again. I'm really excited about writing blogs and articles about a variety of topics. I'm hoping that Substack will have a larger reach for me than this blog and my Patreon. 

It's free to sign up for my newsletter. 

There is a paid subscription as well that you can join if you want to support my work. You can join month to month or for a year. You can quit at any time. 

As time passes, creatives must continue to be more creative about how we earn an income. 

I'll be writing one article a week on Substack, and some weeks, more than one. 

These articles will vary as my interests do, which is why it's called Sephera's World Observations. 

I'll be dispensing writing advice, stories about my ghost-hunting adventures, my observations about world events and personal events, and of course, TV shows and movies!

I also have a comment section on the newsletter if you want to speak your mind about anything I've written!

I'm excited about this new path in my career. 

As well as writing for Substack, I'm still working on my interactive novel, Four Witches and a Dude, over at Tales, which you can read as I publish it. Chapter Three should be going up any time. I got way behind on this book when my dad died in December but I'm hoping to catch up again.

I'm also working on a couple of other novels and some short stories. 

And, of course, my screenplays! I'll keep polishing and sending them out, and hopefully, one will get picked up before I die!

I'm hoping that 2023 will be my year of returning to be a prolific writer as I was for so many years before some shitty life events and job situations tried to squash me down. 

It's taken me long enough, but now, I'm rising up again. 

Thank you all so much for all of your support over the years!

Here are the links to the first four articles. 







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Sunday, February 5, 2023

A Different Time for Others

 



A Different Time for Others

Sèphera Girón

For those who don’t know, I’m still grieving for my dad, who died suddenly and unexpectedly in December. My mind is hyper-focused on him, my mom, who has late-stage Alzheimer’s, and the depressing insurmountable and time-consuming tasks that these life events bring. So, my thoughts may be jumbled, and I apologize.

However, it’s Women in Horror month, and the shit has hit the fan in the horror community (again). I’ve been following the latest scandal a bit and listened to the podcast where Brian Keene, Mary SanGiovanni, and Christopher Golden addressed the scandal and offered thoughts around it, their journeys through the horror field these past few decades, and shared distressed, conflicting emotions.

I’m from same era as they are, around the same age, maybe a few years older; we all began our careers around the same time, admired the same authors, and have had our mighty ups and downs; both in our personal lives and professional ones.

One thing about being around as long as we have is that we’ve seen A LOT. Both in society as a whole and in the horror community. The past few years are proving to be smackdown years as the genre evolves and grows.

Times have changed dramatically. And I don’t mean just going from writing on typewriters to home computers to cell phones.

The younger generations roll their eyes when us elders say, “It was a different time.” They need to understand it’s not an excuse; it’s a true fact.  


I was a teen in the seventies in London, Ontario, Canada, not knowing at the time that I was one of the first generations to experience women’s lib, the pill, abortion rights, the sexual revolution, striving for equality in the workplace, saw Star Wars when it was Star Wars, and I experienced a whole world BEFORE Star Wars ever existed!

As I’m of a certain age, I can say without question that I’ve been sexually harassed (as it’s termed these days) at nearly every job I’ve ever had, either by customers or bosses. I’m from the days when if a manager in a bar was mad at the staff, they would wing trays around, smash shit, and scream. Bosses screamed at staff while actively working in the restaurant or store or office or theatre or or or. Teachers gave the strap, threw chalk and erasers, and slapped.  

“Others” were mocked, the scapegoats. Arstsy fartsies, effeminate people, nerds, clowns, and so on.



You were either the bully/boss/gatekeeper, or you weren’t. You learned young how to duck and cover, how to be invisible, how to flirt to get ahead or to deflect harassment. You learned to blend in, whether it was being part of the mocking crowd or shrinking away. You learned how to handshake to be manly, to fit in, to be thought of more than “others.” Movies and TV shows reinforced all the ideas.

Even if you had something to say, (and some did have something to say over the years), a seeming voice of reason, the majority mocked or ignored, especially if you were “others.”

So, you blend in, playing chameleon. As most did. There might be whispers about the mighty gatekeepers, for in those days, there were always gatekeepers. Many gatekeepers were also “others,” but many were not. There was no internet. No way to know who shared your thoughts or experiences. Was it cultural? You knew the Emperor Had No Clothes, but you’re trained to blend in, don’t make waves, or all the gates slam shut.

And in those days, there were not a lot of gates if you had specific goals. Especially in the arts. Especially in the horror community.

The gatekeepers, if we’re now focusing on the horror community, weren’t necessarily editors and publishers themselves. Still, the gatekeepers rubbed elbows with all those who had various powers to find the keys that opened the gates to the kingdom.

People from around the world have different world views, and so kingdoms and gatekeepers and the gatekeepers’ gatekeepers are different as well. In Canada, the general stereotypical regard, especially back in the eighties, was that Americans are brash and rude. They push the envelope; they say stuff out loud that most would never say.  They bark loudly but are usually harmless, and most mean well. So, I watched, giving a wide berth for “other cultures” in case I wasn’t “getting it”.

Being a bit cowed when I was younger, before the travails of life made me snarky and outspoken (as happens with crones), I saw many words and actions that I considered to be anything from demeaning to shocking to cruel and rude. I stood by not doing what I should, not fighting the fight and sometimes even piling on. I, too, have been the asshole. Absolutely.

In many areas of my life, I’ve been quiet when I should have stood up for myself or someone else. We’re the product of our choices and the good thing about life is that you can make new choices if the old ones don’t serve you. We have the ability to transform our thoughts and behaviour. We can learn how to “judge” in more gentle, sympathetic and empathetic ways.



There is something to be said for “gaslighting” and “grooming” (these aren’t just buzzwords as people escaping cults can tell you), whether related to personal relationships, professional relationships, politics, or society. It’s around us in all media and entertainments. It’s only over the past few years that I’ve come to understand that what is now considered “gaslighting” and “grooming” was pretty much everyday life for most of us back in the day.

And maybe that’s why “the kids these days” don’t understand “why didn’t you speak up against this or that?” or “why didn’t you report it?”

The younger generations may not realize that things like human resources departments only really came about in the nineties and beyond. Even into the 2000s, there were no real rights at jobs, at being human. There was no manager to talk to at all about anything. You just had to shut up and suck it up. If you complained about something you heard/saw to the wrong person, it could get out, and you’d never enter the kingdom. There was no one in charge, and self-policing groups for behaviours that weren’t outright assault or stalking weren’t really a thing yet.

There are masks. There are different personas for different people. Not everyone sees a person’s every side. We all have different sides, I would think. Especially if, over the years, we’re on various medications, drugs, alcohol, are in a cult, abusive relationship, someone died, and so on. Some people change over the years. Some for the worst. Some don’t change at all.

If there were words or actions that felt wrong, who did you tell back then?

With no internet or mass communication, there was no way to know that others felt it too.

But now we do have mass communication. Sometimes, too much.

I truly admire the newer generations pointing at infractions of humanity, grievous infractions that many had slipped past, denied, ignored, placated, or shrugged off.

The horror genre has evolved into sprawling octopus tentacles where there are no more true gatekeepers. Not like back in the day. Publishing opportunities are nearly endless. You don’t have to deal with agents if you don’t want to, unlike back in the day. You can pop an editor an email or check out their social media; no more waiting for the key to the kingdom. There are many kingdoms these days.  Everyone is welcome if you show talent.

Many elders like Brian, Mary, Chris and myself are listening and learning. We’re learning that being silent did no one any good. We now have our eyes open that allies fighting for what’s just common decency are in full view and in great numbers. We don’t have to make nice anymore. We can call it as we see it, and people will back us up.

This has been a great awakening for me these past few years. I’m hoping to find my own strength to call out that which isn’t right. And I sincerely apologize to those I let down or didn’t protect. I’m working harder all the time to be better. A few years ago, I began making a YouTube theme of “Writers Behaving Badly” in an attempt to uncover some of these things but then stopped when the depression of lockdown and such kicked in.

My dad was an immigrant, part of a boatload of children from Spain sent to the States as “orphans” to start a new life. His life was a series of horrors; racism, religious abuse, physical abuse and more for being “others”. Yet, for my whole life, he judged people by deeds and character and devoured history about all cultures, races, genders and sexuality, always trying to understand why humans are so horrible to each other. He shunned all organized religions, believed they were invented to control others, and that you don’t need a religion to be a decent person. He was a humanist.

I miss my dad.

But I know, parents die, and I was lucky to have him in my life for sixty years. I credit him and my mom for making me more focused on character and deeds and to be curious about how we historically got here from all cultural, religious, and racial aspects. My whole immediate family is prone to giving people “the benefit of the doubt,” and I’m learning as I age that there’s no law that says we have to do that. That was from the “don’t make waves” generations. We don’t have to be that anymore. I’ve felt distressed for decades about some things I’ve seen and heard in many areas of my life, and regret rarely doing much about but, usually, because I didn’t know what to do.



The younger generations are giving me the strength to see that something CAN be done about a lot of things.

This is eye-opening for so many of us. Sometimes evolution and revolution are good things.

To a very few, I’d like to suggest that instead of shaming and blaming and JUDGING us with “how could you not know?” or “why didn’t you report it?” why not be patient and teach us how to be better at fighting it? One day, you too will be of “a different time.”

These days on social media, there are witch hunts for the witch hunts and I’m not sure that’s any better than the original issue. Digging into people’s privacy (spying on who is “friends” with someone, for instance) and dictating your personal beliefs on how things should be handled (unfriend or else…!) is just as bad as being the misogynist, racist, homophobic asshole you’re complaining about, in my opinion. So to those few, I suggest you focus on getting your own life straight and do your part to fight the fight, which doesn’t include shaming and blaming other people for their own choices in how they handle a controversy if they even know about it. Not everyone spends their time online sucking up your drama.






However, in the spirit of Women in Horror Month, I say, ladies, let’s keep fighting against the misogyny. As those old Virginia Slim cigarette commercials used to say, “We’ve come a long way, baby!” And as we now know, cigarettes will kill you, and so will our old ideas. So, butt out that cigarette, and let’s all move forward to new days ahead.

Virgina Slims Ad
See how much we've learned since this ad ran in the sixties?!?!

 

And to everyone and especially to those who feel like they’re on the outside looking in, “others,” let’s keep fighting and learning and growing together. There is room for every human being at the table in every house in every kingdom. Claim your spot!

Happy Women in Horror Month!

 


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